Mutual Consent Divorce

Back ground of the issue : On the baby shower [Mid of Jan 2019] ceremony for myself my inlaws and parents had arguments and based on the issue , i was upset and during the labour i had texted my husband regarding the admission for baby delivery instead of calling and informing him , which made him furious.After that we had constantly had arguments between myself and husband , when my kid was 3 months old [April 2019] , my inlaws along with my husband and his brother's in law came to meet my parents and invite myself and kid to their house for a week's time stay for which i did not agree and there were lots of arguments and my husband denied himself from visiting me and my kid . He took us for shopping when my kid was 5 months old [May 2019] and never visited us again untill my kid was 1.5 months old [June 2020] . Inspiting of inviting him , my inlaws and his relatives for the first year birthday of the day. i visited my inlaws again along with my husband when my husband came to meet me and my daughter asking us to live along with my inlaws , which i am not in much favour as they do let know all the family issues to all their relatives and friends , the most disturbingly to my sisters-in-law , who will ask n number of questions regarding my decisions and unwillingness. Actual Question: My husband wants to file mutual consent divorce , which i was against to . But now recently he has changed the home and on asking for the details he denied to provide the details , saying it was not needed for me and hence i also agreed to the divorce. 1.Lawyer told me that i would be receiving the notice regarding the same last week , but did not receive the notice. how long will it take for the notice to be issued to me ? 2. If at all i do not receive the notice , he asked to take it as oral notice and to visit the family court early next month . Is this the appropriate thing to do ? 3. If i approach as per his suggestion , will it be considered as if i have been approaching the court for divorce? 4.Also i am not financially well , do i need to hire a lawyer ? 5.Can i attend the court without the lawyer if i get the notice in case ? 6. Will the court assist me in approaching the appropriate lawyer once i attend to the court in the first session? Please help me . Thanks in advance.