Want to have peace and stay with all family my family and also with inlaws.

Hello Team, I will keep a summary on my problem. After marriage we have many arguments and my wife did lot of physical violation against me.But still I love her.This happens when she becomes extreme angry and goes out of control from her hand and even what she do by that time she also sometimes not able to remember.It is like it is very very hard to control her by that time.The important role played here is with my mother in law.Every day she calls my wife and rather than having positive talks she used to go deep inside our conjugal issues and starts giving ideas to my wife. My wife blindly starts following her and that leads to small issues and then it becomes more bigger issues.Also in other aspect it is like my wife tells all and everything what happens in our family to her mom and they starts giving remedy for this. A remedy for positive side was good but it is like again making it more bigger.I told my wife all that is happening between me an you,let it be only with us.But she never listened. Now due to my father in law was admitted to hospital so immediately 1 month back I have to take my wife her home.After hearing the news just withing 2 days me,my wife and my 2 years old kid flew from bangalore to kolkatta. Now after 1 month my wife tells me that you and your family do not give me respect and I do not want to come back and instead she wants to go to my pternal home.No one stays in paternal home years after years and I told her that who will take care of you,baby there. And if something medical emergency happens how someone immediately come there for help.Please try to understand.But she is telling that I will go there and will keep 2 servnts who will do all task for me. I told that will not be enough.1 family member should be there.My in laws told me that they will not allow their daughter come to bangalore and instead make arrangements in paternal home. But they are not understandanting what I am trying to convey them.Also on other side blaming me that that your kid and wife and you should have your responsibility and we have to take all the responsibility which is not part of ours work. How can I help my wife when I am staying so far away from kolkata. Good thing about my wife is she loves me also too much and she do all household work for me and never asks for help,she had a good relation with my sister and father.But there is no good relation with my mother.Due to all this things everything has become complicated between two families. Please suggest me !