My Wife Found Guilty in multiple occasions and now not ready to come back

Hi, My name is Amit, I had an inter-cast love marriage in 2012 and had 2 kids from my wife. Initially before marriage my wife seems perfect to me but after marriage she got totally changed. She always ask me send money to her parents and support her. She started having occasionally drink and smoke. Also started living much modern life. Initially she find trouble to stay with me and finally we settled the dispute and compromised with her modern nature. In my Job i got my last assignment with an touring profile, which last for 4 years. Where i found that her modern nature cherish alot and now after that profile end she is not able to find time staying with me properly. She was recently being caught in having chats with manny boys on facebook and whatsapp and also visiting bar and having cigarette at home. Finally i had heated argument with her and she used abusive language for me. In return i slapped her. In return she called her parents and finally they asked her to come back as soon lockdown over. After that she Also being caught with one person which she blamed that abusing us and she not informed to family because want to settle by self. which finally i need to take up legally and done NC against that boy. Now finally she left with my 2 kids and now not coming back. I informed her parents about everything where they supporting her and saying that chat/Cigrette/drink is common in these days and talking to boys/Also having boyfriend is not offence. offence is slapping a girl. Now will not send our girl until you come and oppoligise. After 2 months finally we put the step down and said sorry for hurting there sentiments and my parents personally gone to her home to ask her for come back and settle the things in familly. but she deined. now her parents are telling that they will not send her to my present town but can send her to Bhopal where she live with kids and you can visit them in interval to meet on weekends. my parents saying that if thats the case then there is no reason left to take up that marriage. Where my wife denied getting seprated and asking me to live like that only or asking me to do what you can but she will not leave me. please guide what to do now.