Contested Divorce

Hi, I have been married for 8 years now and my marriage occurred so suddenly that i did not get enough time to know the person well. we have a son aged 5. Living my eight years with lot of lies and promises to get better tomorrow and nothing has changed yet. We have the differences of 14 years in age and so as with our view and opinion which always ends up in a argument (I am 27 and he is 41) . From the beginning - he has always been rude to my family, very jealous of others success and always selfish which i cannot take as i am a very soft and helpful person. I tried my best to change him but no luck. the marriage started with the lie saying he had job while i realized after marriage that he is jobless. My parent arranged a visa to Qatar, he found a job, but with this silly mistakes of involving into religion matters he was removed from the country where in return myself and my son had to return with him as a law in 4 years. My family has been helping him financially all through this 8 years. He has been lazy all through his life and i am always been forced to be a decision maker. I had to leave my son and come to Canada to rebuild the life which he would have done but pushed me for it. Now its been 3 years i am in Canada, finally made my living here and about to get my permanent residence. My son has lost that bonding as we were separated. In these three years i have decided to end this relationship and i spoke to him about it. I feel more relaxed and confident living away from him. He says he would not sign any papers and will never allow this divorce to happen. If I go for a contested divorce he would seek high amount of alimony and compensation as i am the one opting for divorce. I applied no fault divorce over here in Canada and sent him a notice which he did not sign at all and asked me to come to India and fight for it. I will be visiting India for two weeks this December and really need some suggestions on how to go with it. I do not have any assets in India or in Canada. I have been an NRI from the age of 20. among that 8 years we have been together here and there for a total of 4 years only. Rest of the years we were away from each other. I do need to help my child financially if he does not let my son to come and live with me. I am not sure if you require further info to really look into this situation. I wanted to go for a NO Fault divorce while i think its not followed in India.