Cheating / false promise of marriage / emotional trauma
Dear Legal Advisor,
I personally feel my situation is very different but I truly need legal advice.
I was in the UK until May 2016 and my boyfriend is still living in the UK.
We were living together in Coventry. We both are Indians by nationality.
My boyfriend promised me marriage and told me that he would tell his parents about our relationship and get their approval for marriage. But later he changed his words saying his parents wont agree for it. I became pregnant also, and he forced me to go for abortion and took me to BPAS Streatham (London, UK) for surgical abortion since i was 13thweek pregnant. He mentally and emotionally tortured/influenced me for the abortion and finally he made me agree to his decision. later i realised that his parents got him engaged with another girl back home in india. when i came to know that i informed the girl about our relation and pregnancy.
and since his parents did not accept our relation he tried to betray me.
I went to India for personal reasons and we had fights over the phone as he was trying to deceive me and told him that I would go legally. He asked me to come to UK if I really wanted marriage. After coming to UK, he manipulated me once again and told me that "we are mentally disturbed for different reasons and so we will take 6 months time and then he will come to India and marry me". He made me cancel my work visa and so I came to India. Slowly slowly he disconnected all communication including social media. All I know is where he works. I tried to reach some of his colleagues at work for his contact details but no use. I was totally betrayed by him and in emotional trauma now for losing my baby as i really don't wanted that time. He forced me to kill my unborn baby. He emotionally manipulated me. He spoiled my career too.
By now I should have my baby but because of the abortion I am emotionally and psychologically disturbed which is impacting my personal life even till today. I want to take legal action against him. I can I file a complaint/case against him and sue him for what he has done? Will I get justice? I need someone who is an expert in family/civil law/criminal law. I can never excuse him for forcing me to have an abortion and not marrying me now. Can someone advise me please. Also he physically abused me a lot when i was in UK. He used to hit me very hard and I used to cry a lot. all i bared since we are in relation and he promised me marriage and i thought i would understand his emotion being his partner. he also use to abuse me orally with very bad words.
he forced me for abortion and i had to say ok for it in the end as he emotionally and mentally tortured me for abortion. By now i should have my baby. now he is not there and my baby is also not there. because of the abortion i am emotionally, mentally and psychologically depressed, which is impacting my personal life a lot. I still remember the loss of my baby who was 13 week fetus. after the abortion also he abused me physically and orally. he use to torture me mentally to send me out of the relation. in the end he is betraying me and absconding from me. since he forced me to kill my baby for his selfishness, i wanted to go legally. now i am all alone with no one.
Asked 24 days ago in Family Law from Hyderabad, Telangana
1) file complaint of rape against your boy friend under section 376 of IPC
2) your friend had sex with you under promise of marriage and later betrayed your trust and forced you to abort the child .
3)since your boy friend is refusing to marry you complaint of rape is maintainable against him
How would you prove that he forced you to abort? The onus to prove forcible abortion will be on you. You can sue him for damages apart from initiating his criminal prosecution under Indian Penal Code but without evidence your case will collapse like a pack of cards.
The only proofs that I have:
1) few call recordings that he likes me but situations made him do that and pregnancy confirmation and physical and oral abuse. calls during cancellation of his marriage. all negative calls as he is upset of his father reputation gone. But I have one call recodings where i told his mother that we both love each other but he was scared to tell his parents about our relation. It is after that only his parents got him engaged to another as they did not like our relation.
2) I have my abortion reports but since they are from UK, they dont mention his name.
3) call recordings admitting my pregnancy
4) imessage saying that he would marry
One doubt: how can any girl prove certain things which happen purely among 4 walls of a room and on top of everything, when the girl still trusting him that he wouldn't cheat..? how can any girl prove in such situations, when it is a case of deception or betrayal and false promises. its purely emotional.
Now I completely lost my life emotionally physically mentally and professionally. I am unable to lead a normal life though I am a masters degree holder from a foreign country.
In one word lost everything.
luckily the proofs that i have also.. i did not record them intentionally, they were recorded accidentally.
Asked 24 days ago
Both of you are adult and consented for sex out of own volition.
You also now the consequences if the boyfriend refuses to do marry you in future.
I regret nothing can be done out of this though you can lodge complaint of rape but that would be a very weak case.
You can file civil suit for damages out of your mental trauma and agony but such suit take years to see end the day.
So better move on in lifer and next time become more cautious.
call recordings and messages are admissible in evidence
2) you can testify during trial regarding promises made for marriage and betrayal by your lover
3) you would be subject to cross examination by accused advocate
Your feelings can be understood.
He has really betrayed you manipulated fraud against you in a very clever manner so that he cannot be implicated in any legal case.
However since all the incidences are reported to have taken place in UK, you can get him punished as per that country's law alone and you may not be entertained by any law in India until you give some false report on him here in India.
For this also he has to be present i n India otherwise you may not have any remedy for all your sufferings and turbulences.
All the information furnished by you in the subsequent post relates to the incidences taken place in a foreign country, hence he cannot be tried under Indian laws, so better consult an attorney in UK and try to get him booked under UK laws on the basis of evidences in your support.
1. Under the Indian Contract Act a promise to marry is not legally enforceable.
2. IN short, you require evidence of him harassing you for abortion, and only then you can harbour any hope of success in the legal pursuit.