Don't want to lose him via divorce
We madly love each other.But the only problem between us is his mother's nature.She cannot tolerate our closeness, if he cares for me, if I use his things she badmouthed me in his absence over phone.In front of him she is sugar-coated.I do not have proof of her these activities as my windows doesnt allow me to record calls earlier.And we had massive fights only on this issue as he doesnt believe and reacted as his mother is innocent which angry me a lot.She manipulates our conversation everytime. I just stopped talking to her for the last few weeks. 2days back we had a great fight on this issue of his mother's misbehavior and he completely denies and says I am the culprit and she is innocent, I am making all the stories.We stopped talking for 2days approx.Today I have got the news from his father that 2days back she got hospitalized,and my husband thinks because of me she is getting ill.Many times I told them to take her to a Psychiatrist.They did not go.Now he even gets angry when I told him to go for a Psychiatrist.Simply he is saying I am reason for his mother's illness,and he will divorce me,send me notice.The moment I heard the news of her hospitalization I eliminate all her misbehavior from my mind,because now I understood that she suffers from mental illness as reports are normal and in hospital doctor referred to a neurologist.For the last 2days I researched a lot about Narcissistic personality disorder and every traits is matching with her.So today I suggested my father in law along with neurologist visit a Psychiatrist,but he informed my husband that I told him that "he is going for wrong doctor".I have the recording where I always said "in my opinion you should also visit a Psychiatrist too".I said sorry even if I know I am not guilty just to bring the peace between us.I know he is very angry now, but he cant leave without me.But his parents fuel our separation for sure.I am helpless, clueless.I just cant live without him.I want peace in our live,Please help us how to deal with the problem, and how make him realize that I am not telling lie.I never in my dream think of leaving him though with lot of pain initially I agreed to sign on the papers so that he will be happy.But I realized every time after few hours of separation that its impossible to stay without him.Please help me.
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
Initially I was suing a windows phone. There was not call recording option so I was tried to download several apps to record a call but it was not working,so I do not have any proof.But the recent allegation given by his father that " I told him he is consulting a wrong doctor for MIL chek-up" and that conversation I recorded because my windows ph got damaged and using android.I only said in my opinion only they should visit a Psychiatrist for MIL. I will definitely withdraw the consent and judge will help me anyways ? Because we need a marriage counsellor. If I am going to ask him to come with me to a MC he might not go.
Asked 8 years ago